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Thursday 19 September 2013

Stop Stressing - How to Log It and Block It

English: Unlimited Potential of the Human Mind
English: Unlimited Potential of the Human Mind (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Copyright © 2010-2013 Larry Tobin

An interesting thing about the human mind is that it tends to work largely on autopilot. Whether it is showering, driving to work, or making breakfast, there are large parts of our daily routines that occur without needing much conscious thought.

This is a normal, healthy behavior. If we had to stop and consider or manually cause every single action in our lives, we'd be slow moving creatures indeed. That said, there are times that this tendency can give us trouble. It isn't so much a direct problem as an indirect one of allowing stresses to build up without really analyzing them. We go through our lives every day with tiny stresses coming up again and again, and we don't always take the time to consider how we can deal with them or even where they come from, because of our automatic acceptance of the routine.

Today, let's focus on redirecting that routine. Just as the mind can adopt behaviors as automatic, it can be made to think about them and break them down into meaningful pieces of information. To that end, we're going to look at a life-building habit called a Stress Log.

What is a Stress Log?

In short, a stress log is a record of our day and the activities in it. The record begins when we wake up, and takes account of everything we encounter and do throughout the day so that later we can look at the information and make healthy decisions about it. The first step in any process of building a habit is knowledge, after all.

The exact form the stress log takes isn't important. It can be a program in our Smartphone, a document on the computer, or a physical book. What is most important is that it is something we are comfortable using on a regular basis and can easily access.

Stress Log Step 1 - Diary Daily

The first step in building up a good Stress Logging habit is to make sure to do it every day. When we have more information to work with, we have a better grasp on what needs to be done. The most consistent routine in our lives is usually the daily one, and the one we can most immediately affect. That's why the saying, 'one day at a time,' rings so true.

It takes about thirty days to first establish a good solid habit, as we've discussed. We can't get to thirty without first getting to one. So for starters, we'll make our journal one of daily progress.

Stress Log Step 2 - Piece by Piece

Now that we have our stress log, it's time to begin filling it in. We can begin with the elements of our routine. Good things to note include the time we wake up, what we make for breakfast, how and when we went to work, schools, or about our chores, and the like.

Nothing is too immaterial. If we notice it, it should go in the book because our brain considered it important. We shouldn't let this interrupt our work of course; if something is big and needs attention, it should be dealt with, and then after it has been handled it should be noted in the log.

This practice builds information in two ways. First, it creates a steady log of information about our day that we can use as a reference. This will let us look at trends, see patterns, and understand the various elements that make up the complicated picture of our lives. The second thing it does is help us build the habit of observation. As we write down the things we notice, we begin to notice more things, increasing our perception of the world around us and the effects it has on us.

Stress Log Step 3 - Thoughts and Tidbits

As we build up the list of our activities, it is important to note down our thoughts of those activities in the stress log along with them. For example we could record a discussion with a coworker, and whether it made us pleased, indifferent, or more stressed out. We could put down whether the sandwich at lunch was more disappointing than usual, or if getting in late to work caused us problems getting things done.

This piece of information is critical to the process of later analysis. In building a habit of considering and evaluating our world and the stimuli it gives us, we need to know what effect all this information and experience has on our lives.

Stress Log Step 4 - Study and Summary

The important thing at first is to avoid trying to change anything right away. Changing matters at random might not help us, and could cause more stress. Instead, we're just going to journal honestly as we go along.

Then, at the end of each week of logging, we can evaluate our experiences throughout the week and see if we can start identifying the areas that cause us the most stress. This will let us make strong choices to adapt and possibly change things, giving us the ability to reshape our habits into the mold we want, instead of one that happens on autopilot.




About the Author:
Larry Tobin is the co-creator of http://www.HabitChanger.com/, offering effective and empowering solutions for stopping stress. Try our 42-day program that will help you learn proactive habits to beat stress and keep you moving forward in the right direction.


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Monday 19 August 2013

Stop Stressing - Building Your Support Team

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Community Support Group (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Copyright © 2010-2013 Larry Tobin

One of the most difficult facts about building strong habits is that so much of it lies directly on our shoulders. We have to exercise the willpower to reduce the influence of stress in our lives; we have to make the choices that will help us feel better at the end of the day. However, many of us focus so much on this challenge that we forget that there are other people in our lives willing to help us, if we just let them.

There are many ways that we can allow others to help and encourage us in our efforts. The ultimate responsibility may come down on our shoulders, but that doesn't mean we're islands that have to stand entirely on our own. Families, friends, and oddly enough even entire strangers can be an amazing resource in our efforts to de-stress our lives. Here, we focus on some of the ways we can build a strong support group as we endeavor to kick the stress habit.

Step 1 - Don't Be Embarrassed

There is no shame at all in asking for help with a problem. Houses are built by large teams, cars are designed by groups, and town councils usually have more than one member. A big enough project will benefit from having outside help, so there's no harm in asking for a little of it. After all, wouldn't you feel honored and pleased if your friends came to you for your help and advice?

As you decide who you want to ask for help, take the following habit building step if you feel embarrassed or worried about asking for help. Remind yourself of something you've done to help someone else and recognize that this is no different. Affirm that it's not a weakness to ask for help with something important. Do this every time you need to ask for help, and in time it will be part of the healthy habit of seeking out others' support.

Step 2 - Start Close

Easy steps are the best way to build a new, strong habit. Having to bend and wrack yourself to bring a new element into your life is a surefire way to get discouraged, so it's best to start where you feel comfortable. For the first member of your support group, choose someone you already trust with things you need help with. A friend you're used to talking to or a family member you confide in regularly is a great choice because the connection will feel natural. This will help the habit grow naturally, instead of being forced into your life.

Step 3 - Rely on Experience

Again, there's no sense in making more work for yourself than necessary. The goal is to reduce stress, not increase it! When picking out your stress support team, consider asking for help from someone who has dealt with stress themselves, or may even be dealing with it now. Their insights will give you a fresh angle on things, and you will both be able to share that sense of camaraderie that comes with mutual understanding of a problem.

Step 4 - Keep it Light, and Be Flexible

Remember that your support group isn't your life-instructor. They're friends you've chosen to help you as you deal with your problem, not to deal with it for you. Don't feel you have to talk to them nonstop about everything. Instead, set up a time to talk once or twice a week. This will give you time to build up things to talk about, so the conversations can be more varied and dynamic, but will also be frequent enough not to leave you hanging when needed.

As you speak to your support friends, remember to keep the conversation flexible as well. If you need to talk to them about things that are stressing you and worrying you, do so. Getting it out can help matters, and let you talk through to solutions. On the other hand, sometimes the best therapy is just a friendly conversation about the newest movie or a great book you've both read. Talk about what feels natural, and most relaxing for you, instead of feeling you have to focus on talking points.

Step 5 - Help Your Team Grow

Numbers aren't everything, and bigger may not always be better, but you want your support group to grow beyond an initial one or two people. Different people have different experiences that you can draw upon, and having an assortment of confidantes who can help you out is of greater benefit than relying solely on one person.

Consider adding a new link in your support chain each week for the next two months. Sixty days is the upper limit of a good habit building timeline, so by the time you've gathered these eight helpers around you, you'll be very used to seeking out their advice and the whole process will feel very second nature. And once you've acquired these habits, you will have an even stronger network of friends to form a lifelong safety net against stress.. Good luck, and healthy habits to you.


About the Author:
Larry Tobin is the co-creator of http://www.HabitChanger.com/, offering effective and empowering solutions for losing weight. Try our 42-day weight loss program for Losing Weight.


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Friday 16 August 2013

Stop Stressing: the STOP Method

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Stress is a universal part of the human condition. In short, just about everything in our lives can be a source of stress. The key is not avoiding stress, but learning how to filter what kinds of stress we allow to affect us, and to stop the influence of the worst sources.

However, in some cases one of the worst sources of stress is the voice in our own heads. It really is true that we can be our own worst critics. We talk ourselves into giving up on important projects, belittle ourselves, and sabotage our good, healthy habit-building progress with unhelpful language and private doubts. While a healthy dose of constructive self-criticism can help anyone, we frequently end up taking things too far and miss out on many otherwise good opportunities to build strong habits for ourselves.

With this in mind, we're going to take a look at the S.T.O.P. method of thought management. S.T.O.P. is one of the many techniques you can use to keep a healthy perspective on things. In particular, it is a means of bringing up those negative thoughts and banishing them before you can talk yourself into a bad situation. Practicing these steps will build a healthy habit to stopping stress.

S - Say 'Stop' Now.

Right at the start, learn to say 'stop' aloud to yourself. The moment you start having those self-sabotaging thoughts, or that mental voice tells you that you're stupid or silly for trying something, say 'stop.'

It may feel a bit awkward at first, but there's a reason for this. Remember that in a crisis, the police or firefighters will often give verbal commands, even when the situation is fairly obvious. This isn't just to relay the information itself, it also helps get everyone thinking on the same page. This psychological trick can be used in your own favor, so that the act of saying 'stop' aloud starts off a chain of events that you're able to use to your advantage.

As another example, it's similar to the habit of some experts who talk to themselves through a task they know how to do. They aren't necessarily reminding themselves how to do it. Rather, the act of saying the instructions and steps aloud helps them focus, and gets their mind in an appropriate place. Learn to take advantage of this at the first sign of trouble.

T - Take A Breath And A Breather

Now that you've brought your bad thoughts to a halt, don't let them just start up again. If you immediately start thinking about the problem right away, there's a good chance you're going to go down the same path of negative thinking as before. This is because the mind tends to think in patterns.

The reason habits are such strong behaviors is that the mind likes a pattern, and will adapt itself to one. Therefore, if you try to dive right back into a problem the moment after you say 'stop,' chances are you aren't going to be in the right mindset.

Instead, take a slow, deep breath. Hold it for a moment, and then let it out slowly. Deep breathing has a calming effect on the body, and our brains work better when we have plenty of oxygen.

Then, take a break from the problem. It doesn't have to be a long one, just long enough to think about something else for a few minutes. Read a short story, listen to your favorite positive song, or take a brief walk. The activity will allow you to get your mind into a more positive framework that you can use to your benefit.

O - Own Your Outcome

Remind yourself of the goals you've set for yourself. Remember that the reason you chose the Habit Changer program is because you want to feel better, and take control of the stress in your life. Yes, the present matters, but only in the way it relates to your goal.

Letting negative thinking defeat your efforts is going to sabotage the Outcome you've picked for yourself, so focus on that Outcome and analyze your thoughts for how they will help you get there.

P - Praise Yourself For What You've Accomplished

There is always a bright side to look at. Whether it's meeting a long term goal, or just having the satisfaction that you're finally starting to take small steps toward making your life better, remind yourself of the good things as often as you can. This will help put those negative thoughts into perspective, and allow you to see them in their proper context. Praise reaffirms our good behaviors, and is a critical element in good habit building.

The S.T.O.P. method is easy, but it will feel a bit awkward at first. We don't often tell ourselves to 'stop' aloud, so it will take practice. This is true of all good habits. It takes about a month of consistent effort to develop a new behavior into a habit. That said, once this time is up, the habits become strong enough to easily fit into our lives, and they get easier every time. Good luck, and remember to S.T.O.P. when stress starts.


About the Author:
Larry Tobin is the co-creator of http://www.HabitChanger.com/, offering effective and empowering solutions for losing weight. Try our 42-day weight loss program for Losing Weight.


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Tuesday 30 April 2013

Get Your Summer Holiday At Club La Costa

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